Lose You to Love Me

Selena Gomez stepped away from the polished pop production of her previous work to deliver a raw, stripped-back ballad with "Lose You to Love Me." Released on October 23, 2019, as the lead single for her third studio album Rare, the track marked a turning point in her career. Co-written with Julia Michaels and Justin Tranter, alongside producers Mattman & Robin and Finneas O'Connell, the song leans heavily on piano and strings to support lyrics about finding independence after a painful breakup. The accompanying music video, directed by Sophie Muller, doubled down on this intimacy by filming entirely on an iPhone 11 Pro in black and white, capturing Gomez singing directly into the lens like a personal confession.

Critics praised the honesty of the lyrics, and audiences responded immediately. The song shot straight to number one on the Billboard Hot 100, giving Gomez her first chart-topper in the United States. It also reached the summit in Canada and Ireland while climbing the top ten in nations like Australia, Germany, and the UK. The track earned multiple gold and platinum certifications worldwide, cementing its status as a major commercial success. Gomez performed the song live at the 2019 American Music Awards, opening the show with a powerful vocal delivery that highlighted the emotional weight of the performance. Later releases included a demo version for the song's anniversary and appearances in the TV series Hacks and the movie Encounter. [edit]