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Did I read this correctly that your therapist once told you to take a break from men for a year? Yeah. I took like a full year off. You did it? I couldn't flirt. No. Yeah. None of it. But it was great. I was like at that place where I was like, I don't want to keep repeating any patterns anymore. I have a great therapist who was like, I can help you, but you have to like do it. It got very uncomfortable for me in the beginning, like the first couple months. My mojo was like, I was just like, oh God, what am I doing? Right. I'm not like not me. Yeah, it's just it's not fun. Then I had this one sort of breakthrough that was very emotional that I don't think I would have been able to access if I had any distraction. It allowed me to see things much more clearly. Within six months, I was like, I didn't care about my phone. I didn't care about like if I was going to go out, meet my girlfriends. I wasn't like, oh, I wonder if so and so would be there or. Yeah. Like, ooh, we should maybe call up so-and-so and then do that. There was no desire for me to be doing anything that had anything to do with potential flirtation. I remember my therapist a year later was like, I think you can flirt again. I was like, what? I can flirt? What does that mean? It's like, how do I flirt? I like forgot. I didn't have the same attachment to it anymore. It just, it just went away. And then the guys that I would normally have been like, ooh, was like, no. Then I was so happy single. I was single for like three and a half years. If I didn't do that, I would never have ended up with Dani. I really believe that there's a lot of different people in your life that you could have, right? It's like, the options are endless. When people are like, I can't find anybody, I'm like, you're not looking in the right places and you have to let the expectation go. You know, all this like, this is my vision board. Like, be comfortable if the person on your vision board is the opposite of who the guy you ended up falling in love with is.